I'm sorry
I have finished the book but my fingers just won't allow me to type too much in anyone day ( they become too sore then I can't cope with everyday meanialities as I lose grip on everything due to them not bending and inflamation making it too painful )
Anyway, here I am.
At the beginning I was bamboozled by Macon and his disgraceful and disgusting antics! I mean, who else would fill a sink with
cold water, add a drop of bleach and leave it all week using that water alone to cleanse his food dishes:

and stamping on his dirty clothes whilst in the shower as a means of washing his clothes. Bleugh....the man is a total disgrace. However, I think most of his behaviour stems from never actually being shown how to perform the most menial of tasks in a brisk and very efficiant way. Possibly due to Rose molly coddling all he brother's but mainly due to his parents allowing her to instead of taking charge and showing their children what's right and what's very definitely wrong.
I also think Rose was responsible in a rather indirect way for him not knowing how to behave in a normal and independant way with women, be that in a relationship way or in a basic platonic way.
Macon is and has always been used to having everything done for him. He enjoyed life that way and felt no remorse, guilt or any need to change things, so when his wife Sarah left him he really should not have been surprised! I cannot believe his work colleagues did not pick up on his slovenly ways, afterall they certainly spilled over into his work. When asked to have a piece of work submitted in a few weeks time ( most people would have done it immediately and thought that too long ) he asked for longer!
I was also disappointed in Sarah. As his wife, Sarah could have and should have sat him down and tiold him what he was doing wrong and how they could work together to improve things for him. Had she have done this, maybe their marriage could have stood a chance.
The fact that Macon himself seemed open to the idea but not open to actually doing things should not have stopped her from trying to put right what was so obviously wrong.
The introduction of Muriel I also found as bemuzing as the other characters. The way her verbal diarrohea took over every possible conversation line, and her ridiculous attempts at training a dog with 'immediate effects' made me realize the author is either insane themselves or has absolutely no concept of animals what so ever.
By the time the book had ended Iwas exhausted with the lot of them.
The book fascinated me from the beginning to the end, but I have to say it was hard work wanting to strangle someone for their obvious but ignorant ways and feeling desperately sorry for Macon and indeeed for Sarah. Being thrown together in the wrong way at such a young age and making a complete hash of things bears nothing on the loss of their first and only child.
The book shows how depression and an inability to talk about their son broke their marriage in half. Both desperately needing to talk, to cry, and to be comforted leading each other through bit by bit hour by hour but neither knowing how was heart rendering indeed.
Feeling like I wanted to walk into the book and hug them both, talk to them both and encourrage gently the grieving proccess showed how much involved I became in the book.
I feel that Muriel in her own way was as needy and Macon in very similar ways and for that reason alone she thought Macon would be an ideal man for her, and this is why she thought they would be good together. I was furious when Macon said he was leaving to be with her! All he's doing is making the same mistakes again. They stand no chance in hell of ever being happy together, only ever striving to tear eaxch other appart with their own selfish ways.
I'm sure in the back of my mind that Sarah and Macon will and do become as one again in the distant future. When so much water falls under anyone bridge bonds that go that deep can and do never ebb away. Instead these bonds eat away at you, constantly pulling you back 'home'. I guess that's life.
